Kandi Burruss Fires Back at Todd Tucker’s Threesome Claims: “A Man Who Already Hurt Me Is Furthering the Damage”

Kandi Burruss is speaking out — and she is not holding back. In an exclusive statement to People magazine, the Real Housewives of Atlanta alum responded to her ex-husband Todd Tucker’s trailer for his upcoming docu-series Till Divorce Do Us Part, in which Tucker claimed the two had multiple threesomes throughout their 11-year marriage. Tucker told the camera plainly, “We did. I would say for most of our marriage, we did.” Burruss, 53, did not mince words: “A man who has already hurt me to my core is furthering the damage by choosing to sensationalize our sex life to stretch his five minutes of fame.” In KEMPIRE’s breakdown, there is a lot more going on here than a simple he said/she said.

She Told the Story First — So Why Is She Mad?

Here’s the thing — Kandi’s statement to People magazine is understandable, but there is a wrinkle we need to address right out of the gate. This was not new information. Todd Tucker did not blow the lid off some secret vault. The fact that Kandi and Todd brought third parties into their marriage was already public knowledge — they discussed it openly while they were still married, and it came up during their time on Real Housewives of Atlanta. So when Kandi says what happened in the privacy of their marriage should stay private, I hear her, but in all fairness, Candy — you told us first. You opened that door. Now, that does not mean Todd gets a blank check to run to every platform and turn their most intimate moments into press-tour content. There is a meaningful difference between your truth being told and your truth being weaponized for clicks and trailer moments. Kandi’s argument seems less about the information itself and more about the motive behind sharing it — and honestly, that is a fair distinction to draw. She is saying you already broke my heart, and now you are using the wreckage to build yourself a storyline. I get that. I hear that. Whether Todd sees it that way is another matter entirely, because based on the press-tour clips I have seen, he does not appear to be spending much time sitting with accountability.

Was Mama Joyce Right? Because I’m Starting to Wonder

Here is where it gets complicated, and I am going to twerk on the fence for a second because I genuinely think both sides have a point. Todd Tucker says he has a right to tell his side — and technically, he does. Kandi went on a live tour and told hers first. But according to Kandi, and I need to be clear these are her allegations, the marriage ended because Todd allegedly cheated and then refused to fight for the relationship. She has said publicly that the cheating alone was not necessarily the dealbreaker — it was his decision to emotionally check out that finished things. And now he is out here on camera looking heartbroken, talking about how his heart still skips a beat when he sees her. I reported to you guys before that Kandi is a Taurus, and one thing I know about a Taurus is when she is done, she is done. And based on everything I have seen from her since this divorce became public, she is done. What I am not seeing in these press-tour clips is ownership. He is talking about being heartbroken, about not having his children 24/7, about how that loss is real — and I believe that part. Divorce is painful even when you caused it. But heartbreak and accountability are not the same conversation. And his behavior since the split is making me ask the question a lot of y’all have already been raising in the comments: was Mama Joyce right about Todd Tucker all along? I am not saying yes. But I am not saying no, either.

That Shamea Clip Changed Everything for Me

Look, I was prepared to give Todd the benefit of the doubt on his right to tell his story and promote his project. And then the Shamea clip happened. For those who missed it, Todd — who is also a producer — posted a clip from Shamea Morton’s explicit film directly alongside a moment from Real Housewives of Atlanta where Shamea’s husband Gerald expressed discomfort with her doing intimate scenes on camera. Side by side. Posted publicly. I watched it happen in real time on another creator’s live and I genuinely could not believe what I was seeing on an Instagram feed. Let’s be honest: there were a hundred ways to promote that project, and he chose the most explosive option available. He took someone else’s painful on-camera marriage moment and her explicit footage and put them together as content for engagement. And that, for me, shifted how I am reading everything Todd is doing right now. Because if you are willing to do something like that to a woman who is not even your ex-wife — someone who is just connected to your story — then I have to wonder where exactly you are drawing those lines when it comes to Kandi. Rewind the tape on everything he has done since this divorce became public, and it is starting to paint a picture. It is giving opportunist. And I hate to say it, because I used to think Todd was the most likable of the RHOA house husbands, outside of Greg Leakes. Just saying.

Don’t Blame the Open Marriage. Blame the Man Who Checked Out.

The conversation around this story keeps circling back to one conclusion — this is why you do not bring third parties into your marriage. And while I understand why people feel that way, I want to pump the brakes, because I do not think the threesomes are actually the story here. Two things can be true: you can have an open arrangement and still have a solid, committed partnership. There are plenty of people, especially in various communities, who navigate that kind of dynamic successfully with clear rules and mutual trust. The issue, based on everything Kandi has said publicly, is that Todd allegedly stepped outside whatever they had agreed to, cheated, and then did not fight to repair the marriage when she needed him to. That is the breach. The arrangement did not break this family up — the accountability gap did. And now we are in a world where Todd is doing press tours and Kandi is releasing People exclusives, which, let’s be real, is kind of what reality television promised us all along. I am going to keep an open mind about whatever Till Divorce Do Us Part turns out to be, because I have not watched it in full and I will not pretend otherwise. But based on what I have seen so far, his behavior since this divorce has me leaning toward Kandi on this one. Whose side are you on — and did the Shamea clip change anything for you? Drop it in the comments. Y’all know I will be reading every single one.

Disclaimer: This post is based on publicly available information and credited sources. All allegations are unproven